Updated: Jan 11
You know that feeling…….
That one where you have no bloody clue where you’re going or what you’re doing
It's uncomfortable to not know where you're going.
Even if you’re settled at work or in your business
If you’re settled in your relationship
If you’re settled with your family
It’s much easier to stay exactly where you are
Even if it makes you unhappy
Have you ever done this?
If you said "no" then I know you’re lying
So what do you do?
Stay exactly where you are?
Or make yourself feel uncomfortable
Did you know that 95% of the population will stay exactly where they are
Their whole lives
And when it comes to them being on their deathbed
They will pass on full of regrets
I lost my best friend this year, she was 55 and she was caught up by the bombings in Sri Lanka travelling for work.
I met up with a mutual friend of ours yesterday
We started speaking about our amazing friend we lost this year and after some tears we ended up laughing.
She was one of those rare souls that when she rang you and asked you to go out
You took a deep breath
Not because you didn’t want to go
But because you knew you’d be up for the most amazing adventure!
She spoke to literally everyone she met
She’d speak to princes, she’d speak to celebrities, and she’d speak to waiters
She never cared “what” someone did
She never even asked them
She only cared about if they were happy
And if they weren’t happy she’d be helping them to figure out what they wanted instead
At her funeral which was packed to the rafters her son spoke
He told us that once she’d met a guy on a plane who was at university studying
She then spent 8 hours talking to him and helping him to figure out his future
So much so that when he was leaving the plane he gave her his card and invited her over to his family home for dinner that night
They said goodbye and as he got off the plane he stepped onto a red carpet and got into a Mercedes which she thought was weird
But thought nothing more of it
She got herself settled in to her hotel and she was wearing her 3 quarter length white linen trousers on and a vest (because she was always “bloody boiling”)
Then she called a taxi and went to the man’s house for dinner with his family
The taxi turned into an enormous driveway and continued up to it
The taxi driver told her that she’d arrived
She then got out and thought she must be at the wrong place
The front door opened and she saw in the house
There was a huge party happening inside
Everyone had amazing clothes on and there she was with her white Capri trousers and vest on!
She was mortified so started to make her excuses and started leaving
Then the man she’d met on the plane saw her and shouted for her to come in
So she didn’t want to be rude so she turned around
She found out that night that this man she’d met that was at university that she’d met on the plane was only a prince!
This story wasn’t unique
She was literally packed full of fun stories of adventures, mishaps, challenges and things that you could only dream of doing. My friend said:
“She kicked the arse out of life and didn’t just take up room on the planet”.
She was 55 when she died
But she lived a life full of possibilities, full of change and full of adventure
She lived her life 5 times over
So how about you?
What are you doing with your life?
Do you have a plan?
A path?
A purpose?
Do you get up every day thinking “yep, I’m gonna kick the arse out of today”?
Are you one of the 5% that actually WILL do something?
That won’t just talk about it
What when you die (because you will) you will only have fond memories?
Will you have people around you that you love?
Will you have left a legacy for others to follow you?
Or will you just drift away without leaving so much as a mark?
So, the very first thing you need to do is decide
Am I happy?
Not all day every day, but every day you are happy to some extent?
Happy in your work?
Happy in your relationships?
Happy in your giving back?
And if you can’t genuinely say yes to be happy “most” of the time then you need to make some changes
Not only for you, but those around you
Did you know if you’re not happy then the chances are that those around you aren’t either?
The second thing you need to do is decide what will make you happy?
What will make you live an extraordinary life?
What will make you kick the arse out of your life?
Start by getting a notepad out or flipchart paper out – A4 or bigger is best
And draw or write what your perfect day looks like…..
What time would you get up?
What time would you go to bed?
Who would be there with you?
What would you be doing?
Just start writing or drawing
Don’t think about it too much
Just see what comes out on paper
Thirdly, find support
Find people around you that always encourage you no matter what
Find people that love you for you
Find people that will support, guide and mentor you through your life
Find someone who’s already done what you want to do
And speak to them
Remember my friend speaking to that guy on the plane
He turned out to be a prince
You literally never know who might be sat next to you right now
Who is that person you see every day who you never speak to?
What about when you’re travelling around or shopping
How do you speak to people?
Go find that one person you admire and find out HOW they’ve done what they have done
And if you’re feeling brave contact them and ask them!
Conclusion
Now that you know how to become happier, what are you going to change to create more happiness not only for yourself but for those around you?
Love
Nikki xx
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