Updated: Jan 11
I woke up one day and couldn’t get out of bed
I was burnt out, in an abusive relationship and hated my job
I'd met him when I was burnout out and at my lowest ebb
I had to figure out how to support myself and I needed a way out of my relationship
I wanted to get unstuck and out of the situation I was in
But I was afraid to leave
My partner had already made a suicide attempt
And he made me feel unworthy of being lovable
He'd managed to get rid of a lot of my support mechanisms
And I wasn’t in control of my finances
The final straw came when I found out my chances of having children was limited
I sat there at the Doctor's office with the room spinning and his words just washing over me like I was in a dream
I'm almost certain that my stressful life where I was trying to "have it all" was part of the reason I was struggling to have children
You know when the world slows down?
My whole life I was told working in a 9-5 job was the way it was
The 70+ hour weeks, the traveling, the good salary
I was "lucky" wasn't I?
But I realised working 9-5 wasn’t enough
I realised I couldn’t make enough money
I realised I couldn’t positively impact the world or leave a legacy like always wanted to
I realised I’d be trapped forever in an abusive relationship if nothing changed
I knew then that I needed to work for myself
I needed to be free of the rat race
I needed to be free from the abuse
So I realised for the first time in my life I had to quit...
Quit my job
Quit my relationship
Quit the life that I knew
So I decided that I wanted to become an Entrepreneur
My plan started with a big vision
A big dream to help 1 million people!
I could use my Psychology degree and my 15 years of putting global businesses on a diet to change my own situation
I wanted to help business owners to become unstuck in their own way, to find more time, money and to gain more energy
I signed up for a masters degree in positive psychology and set up my own online business
Sounds amazing, right?
The problem was that after any abuse whether it’s physical or verbal there are after effects.
I was stalked, owed money and I would find myself breaking broke down at random times for no reason
I also didn’t know how to build an online business
I had no idea what I was doing
I thought once my website was live clients would come running
Why wouldn’t they?
I knew my stuff, I was accredited and ready to serve
But instead there was tumbleweed
Forward onto today and I’ve moved forwards in so many ways
I make my own hours up and design my own life
I am finally free from the chains of 9-5
I managed to build my business from scratch with some amazing clients who inspire me everyday
80% of what I do is now online so if I’m ill or on holiday my business can carry on
I’ve been able to travel as much as I like and even lived by the beach for 6 months
I have so many people around me now supporting my dreams including my own coach who is always there to support (and challenge) my decisions
The best news is though that I am starting the process of adoption
Isn’t that amazing?
And every day I'm helping people to become unstuck and to live their dream life's full of energy with more time and more money
The thing is that you don’t have to go through any of this to make the changes you know that you deserve or want
There are times when you can just decide to quit
Making a decision is instantaneous
“Time is free, but it is priceless, once you’ve lost it you can never get it back”
Harvey Mackay
Conclusion
Now that you know what an extraordinary life looks like for me, could it be time for you to figure out what that means to you?
Love
Nikki xx
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